You’re focused on the wrong thing.
If you are to be the best version of yourself, you need clear thinking.
I spoke about this very topic on this week’s Coffee with Dan and Kate. If you missed it, you can watch it here.
In the video, I was referring to gaining clarity around what is you wish to accomplish. Basically, the clearer your goal, the more likely you are to accomplish it. The more vague and ambiguous your goal, the less likely you are to accomplish it.
For now however, I would like to offer you yet another idea where clear thinking is mandatory if you are to achieve any significant and lasting results in fitness.
Most people are focused on the wrong thing. For instance, when asked what they want to accomplish in their fitness goals, most respond that they wish to lose weight.
My follow up question is, “would you prefer to lose weight and look like crap OR look fantastic at whatever weight that came down to?”
I’ve been asking that question for 10 years, posed it at least 500 times and in that time I recall only 1 person who, steadfast in their resolve, affirmed that they are dedicated to the specific weight regardless of what they looked like when arrived.
Personally I think she was just being stubborn. I challenged a long held belief and I don’t think she liked the feeling. Maybe I’m wrong, doesn’t matter.
The question is asked so as to clarify thinking and that’s exactly what it does.
Nobody wants to lose weight as an end in of itself, you want to look better.
Even for the one stubborn outlier from above, if given a choice, I guarantee she chooses to look better at whatever weight that means.
The idea is this; if your only focus is to lose weight, you are chasing a byproduct.
Losing weight is what happens as a RESULT of something else.
The question is, what is that something else?
Basically, if losing weight is a byproduct, what’s the main product?
The main product is your health – mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and otherwise – or as I’m prone to summarize, the main product is being the best version of yourself.
It’s taking this moment, the one you’re living right now, and making it count towards the overall.
Are you acting accordingly?
Are you really living this moment or just allowing it to pass? Have you imbibed the sights, touches, smells, tastes and sounds of your surrounding or is it all just in the background?
So to be the best version of yourself is to focus on what is front of you. It is to do the next right thing if that is the next meal you eat, the next phone call you place, the next conversation you have, the next workout you do or the next dance you dance.
And I agree with Lee Ann Womack, I hope you dance.
You want focus? Focus on what is in front of you and what is next, not fifty different things that are in the future and may not even happen, but next.
Then, make it great.
That’s how you be the best version of yourself – one small moment at a time.
Lay each brick perfectly such that after a while you look back and are starting at the beautifully built house that is your life.
Committed to your success,